Then Un-Dreamable Dream

You know someone loves you when they are willing to give up their life in Australia to come live with you in Alaska.

A year ago, I never would have believed it was possible.  The love of my life was a citizen of a country on the other side of the world from me and as a lesbian couple, we saw no plausible way for us to be together.  Gay marriage was still illegal in most states and even if we went to one of the states where it was legal, there was no federal recognition of that marriage nor the rights that come with it. Our living in Alaska as a married couple seemed like an un-dreamable dream.

And then the un-dreamable dream came true.

DOMA was struck down and doors to our being together that were never open before burst open.  Regardless of whether gay marriage was legal in Alaska, we had the same federal rights as other couples and that included immigration rights.  We researched our options and applied for a K1 fiancee visa.  It has been a long six month process but she has been granted that visa and we are working on plans to meet in San Francisco to marry before returning to the Kenai as wife and wife.

As I look back on the entire process,  I realize that we have achieved the un-dreamable dream and we have achieved it because of the undying efforts of those that fought so hard for the equal rights for the lgbt community.  The lgbt community has much to celebrate but still has much work to do and those fighting for our rights have not stopped the fight.  They are moving from state to state fighting hate, discrimination and prejudice every step of the way to ensure that everyone in every state has the right to love who they love.

I also recognize in that in achieving our un-dreamable dream, we are becoming part of history.  We are the first generation to fully understand what it is we have gained due to their efforts.  We are the first generation to enjoy the fruits of the battle and the rewards that so many people have worked toward.  We are also the ones that will remember the before and appreciate the significance of the victory more than the generations to come.

This makes it our responsibility to make sure future generations understand the history they have not lived and know the names of those that fought so hard so they did not have to live the same history generations later.

Posted on February 25, 2014, in Being Gay on the Kenai and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

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